Bringing my kids out in public as my true self for the 1st time later today & not gonna lie, feeling nervous about 2 things.
1st - they still call me dad, which I completely left up to them because I already changed enough, I wanted them to feel like they had a say in something
2nd - my fem voice awful atm, though still better than my natural voice.
So the combination of dad & a less than perfect voice has me anxious, and it's more anxiety I have FOR them, not me.
All three of them have said multiple times they are good with us going out in public, so I guess it is more my anxiety lol
@MarvelousMadi13 One thing that helps is that it just doesn't really register for most people. You'll be fine! Just hold your head high, be confident, and act like you own the place :)
@lenaoflune easier said than done until they say "daddy daddy, can we get this candy?" That's the hard part, trying to hold my head high wnen multiple people are in the same isle 😱
I never had to navigate transition with kids, but I *can* add to the notion that most people don't even notice. Trans people aren't a thing they think about, and nearly everyone is too focused on their own issues to think about us.
Enjoy the day with your kids!
@tyghebright @lenaoflune That's been my experience so far, a couple stares here and there, but I'm also 6'1, so that doesn't help
@MarvelousMadi13 @tyghebright Being 6 feet even myself, I get looks from various men. I choose to interpret that as them being stunned by a beautiful woman who's taller than they are ;)
@lenaoflune @tyghebright good way to look at it!
@lenaoflune That actually does help, thanks 😃
@MarvelousMadi13 Oh, I bet people around won't even notice it, and if they do and have kids, they'll remember those halcyon days when their kids used one name and pronoun for everything :)
I say this not to dismiss your fear but just to provide support that it very likely won't even register for anyone :D