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Fellas, is it unmanly to forgive a coworker? Researchers are trying to crack a correlation between men’s views on their own masculinity and their willingness to forgive colleagues’ mistakes.
In a study of 800+ people, UC Riverside researchers found that the more worried men are about appearing “manly,”
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the less likely they are to give someone a pass for botching a task, because they tend to view forgiveness as a feminine trait.
They also noticed that masculinity-concerned guys are more likely to retaliate against a coworker who makes a mistake.
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@Madken65 I am sure that masculinity is not real. It’s made up.
We are dealing with egos.
People not acting from a place of love.
There is no “masculinity” it’s either, you are a kind human or a dick.
Not forgiving a human’s honest mistake is a dickhead response.
Discernment of what is intentional in mistakes is what makes a person intelligent.
When I see examples of this and some guy trying to exert some big guy persona it’s the indicator that they have low self esteem.
...And other smallness
@Madken65 it might not even be small but they are unhappy with it.🤣 They are not okay with themselves is the crux.
@Pennyformythoughts @Madken65 Many things are made up.
Language, culture, identity, religion, law... all human fabrications people tend to get very attached to.
I may find related emotional reactions to be a defect - they objectively prohibit optimal collective function, & harm efficiency - but most people vehemently disagree.
Seems insecure people are overall far more likely to exhibit aberrant emotional behaviour; do we know the observed effect is not caused by insecurity in general?
@Pennyformythoughts @Madken65 My point: most people only see through the veil of artificiality when it's convenient for them, & when it agrees with what they [already/want to] believe.
If one is to assert the nonexistence of a nigh-universal subjective construct on the grounds of being such... for the sake of consistency I'd encourage one to at least begin deconstructing the others.
Otherwise one risks making objective deconstruction merely a convenient rhetorical tool, not an end unto itself.
These guys became more forgiving after being asked in the study to recall just two experiences that affirmed their manhood.
Interestingly, men asked to list 10 such instances struggled to remember that many and didn’t become more forgiving.—ML
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