🙃 I know this was well-intentioned, but someone this evening literally told me,
"Well, the way I see it is that you're at rock bottom, but that's a good thing because you can only go up from here. How much worse could your life get than it already is?"
And, ah... mi gente?
Don't do that.
If you're not sure what to say, you don't need to try to give a pep talk.
It's okay to just sit with someone and be pleasant together instead.
We can talk about sportsball! Or Rocky movies! Or tardigrades!
@MLClark I once had an old friend go on & on about how 💩 my life is. I told her my life was fine & no need to review my bad choices in men, etc., but she kept going on & on. She thought she was being supportive. I joined the raft of her former friends who didn't want to be picked apart.
Oof. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I know it's important to learn who we can and can't rely on, but the actual "learning" part is always tough.
I hope you're surrounded by people who uplift you now.
@MLClark Thanks. I'm less likely to tolerate abuse of any kind anymore. I have a great support system, even better after I culled the herd. Let's all remember that we are due respect.