Many situations can bring us to a point where we feel it's over.
(I live with a precarity that makes some times super hard myself.)
But one of the most challenging might be the one my friend found himself in - because he did harm that will have consequences. And he needed to hear that yes, he *did* cause harm. No excuses. There would be consequences. He now has to work on himself & take responsibility.
But also... that his life still has value after the shame of letting himself & others down.
And I should add that this person heard. He doesn't have access to things like therapy where he lives, but he heard. We talked about addictive behaviours, the difference between explanation and excuse, how to show up with respect and withdraw from behaviours that feed trauma cravings for conflict over healing... lots.
But mostly he needed to hear that he had caused harm from someone who still sees him as having value. Our cultures are so deeply damaged & damaging, the two keep getting mixed up.