Good news: we found a place to house mom. She loves it & dad is totally on board. Just spent the afternoon w/mom talking about family history & memories, as much as we could, while dad got some time to complete the paperwork.
This is fucking awesome. I'm so glad. Mom's needed memory care for a while now & it seemed like dad was in some denial about her needing it, & didn't know what to do. Well he can't care for her on his own, she needs more intensive care than he can provide, so thank Athena Hygeia, we found a good place. & reserved a room.
& she's totally stoked about moving in. The only sad thing that gets her is it's finally dawning on her Parkinson's-muddled mind that dad can't move in with her. :(
It's hard. She's sad about that. & she's still really positive about moving. She's really excited to do things like decorate, & choose her bedding & the pictures she wants to hang on the wall, & all the things she'll get to do while she lives there.
I'm heading over to their house tomorrow to help mom pack the stuff she wants to take. Dad's already got plans to clean up the house after mom is moved, & put stuff away, donate stuff, work on projects he can't do while she's there... stuff like that.
I'm debating getting her a pillow with dad's face printed on it & spraying a bit of his fave cologne on there or something... might be too weird. Maybe good to wait & see how much she misses him once she's moved in.
Well done. Wishing the best for all three of you.
@Impious_Jade It'll be off and on for a while, saying that while knowing that every person is different...
@mims Yeah I figure she'll be bouncing back & forth between sad & just fine for a while as she gets used to it. Transitions for someone w/Parkinson's dementia is a trip, I tellya...
@Impious_Jade blessings
@mims Thank you. :)
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Tip o the hat / YW.
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Interesting idea! For my mom who l think had more advanced cognitive issues. We printed out 4x 6” photos, put some text on the back “ this is Karen, MaryRose’s daughter who lives in Toronto. Then we got them laminated. We put the pile in a plastic container, they were a comfort for my mom, and a reminder ( for her and staff ) of how many folks loved her
@KarenSohne I love that! Mom has already picked out photos she wants to take & hang on the wall in her room, so I'll probably put stickers on the back with info like that. & I"m working on scanning lots of old family photos, so will probably put some albums together for her.
Maybe she'll be too busy to miss him! I kind of hope that's the case. She seriously needs mental stimulation dad can't provide. & dad needs a HUGE break, & to be able to work on their house on his own.
I'm kind of tired now. Withdrawing, which is what I do.