Trying to get my sister (half sister, didn't know about one another till I was 23, she was 34) to understand that we were raised VERY differently, has been difficult.
She was raised to believe that family is there for you no matter what. Family supports each other.
I was raised to believe that family is an obligation that you tolerate on holidays.
I don't want to share my grief with family, anymore than I do a stranger. #Grief #Family
I've been trying to change my mindset. It's easier with my husbands family. I love them, dearly. They love me. I can 100% be myself around them. My FIL and I have a great relationship!
I am not close to, what's left of, my family. No one called to tell me Granny was sick, before she died. My Aunt doesn't acknowledge mine, or my kids', existence. All my Uncle cares about is booze. He called me AFTER Gran died, to tell me to NOT call Aunt, cause "She's difficult at the best of times". *sigh*
@Evereigh oh no, I am sorry about your Granny. 😔
Thats a rough situation to be in. Be patient with yourself, spend your time with those who will support and lift you up.
Just keep in mind that blood does not always mean family. It's ok to stay connected those who care and distance those are not. You do not owe anyone your time just bcuz of "blood" relation.
Spend your time with those who do care. Your family are those who support and care for you. 👊