I stopped doing traditional things a long time ago. I asked myself why I was doing things & it was just because "that's how it's always been done."
That's fine if it makes you feel good, close to family & friends that are now passed away - but it never made me feel good.
It made me sad.
So, I have a wonderful hubs (who also hates tradition) & we just do whatever we decide.
It's different every year & perfect because we're together.