@Armchaircouch i've had a few 'others'.
but frankly, nothing really beats my solitude. i've loved a handful of men. while i think they all tried their best, their best was lacking a good deal. i added to their lives. they diminished mine....which may explain why they tried so hard to hold onto me when i finally called it quits.
i've had much better w/ a lover. 7+ yrs. reciprocal relationship. great sex. cared about my pleasure as much i cared about his. easy to be w/ & easy to chat w/.