1/2: A combination of relationship (of any kind) red flags that morph into a Giant Red Flag, Warning Signal Flares, and Flashing Neons Signs Saying Danger Ahead are someone saying to you or about anyone else:
"If you/they liked/loved/respected me, they would [stop doing whatever it is they don't like you/them doing]."
and
"This is just how I am, and you/they need to deal with it. If you/they liked/loved me, you/they would accept me as I am and not try to change me."
A #protip follows:
3/2: ...they will look back on later and say, "Damn, I fucked that up" and/or "Damn, I fucked them over." (Note: This is not uncommon and is part of growing when you're below majority age and up through/into your twenties. After that is where the chaos is.)
Vigilance doesn't mean "a good defense is a good offense". It means vigilance. It means pay attention, and you need to do that with folks because well over most folks only pay attention after the shit's gone down twisted.
@thedisasterautist Thank you.