Damn! Just discovered I've been blocked by one of my favourite people.
Not that I blame them.
I think I was a bit of a dick in a thread they were in a while back.
Still. Stings a bit.
@AskTheDevil
It's mostly disappointment.
1. In myself for being enough of a dick to earn a block from a nice person because
2. I upset the nice person
3. Knowing they won't see any of this
4. Knowing I won't see them any more
Consequences of my own foolish actions.
I'll try to learn from them.
@stueytheround I like that you think that way.
BTW: Even when you get crabby, it has never exceeded the bounds of my patience.
@stueytheround @AskTheDevil Stuey. If someone got on your bad side for five minutes and they didn't realize that was a temporary thing and you are a compassionate guy who would likely work with someone to smooth things over and come to an understanding, it's on them.
Not saying your thought process isn't the appropriate reaction, but I am saying that you're the kind of person who will predictably react this way to upsetting someone, very predictably.
@tippitiwichet Thank you.
I'm not one bit mad at them. Just sad because I'll miss them.
@tippitiwichet @stueytheround Well-spoken. Hear, here!
@stueytheround I've been background processing this for a few hours. Just my $.02 (likely more than it's worth): I find the value here for me to be mostly the social interactions (sharing in folks' trials and triumphs, offering some comfort or celebration, receiving emotional support, lots of daily life "shooting the breeze"), so I interact accordingly. I don't believe that I've ever changed someone's opinion on a hot-button issue or even seen it done on Soc Med. 1/2
@stueytheround That said, I star posts I agree with, but have come to really try not to be confrontational. There's just no upside. When a friend here gets too wrapped up in a particular topic and we disagree, I typically mute them without ceremony. I'm not here to be aggravated, lol. I love the tools! I know I've been blocked by a few and I've taken it as a win-win. We're literally both better off! No hard feelings whatsoever. Point being: Don't guilt yourself, it's for the best.
@AskTheDevil
@Ironworker229 @stueytheround I've been doing that a bit lately. If I find myself going back and forth with someone I like, and we're just getting mad and not really listening to one another, I _know_ I have a habit of worrying an issue to death, so I mute the other person temporarily, as much to get me off their back as to save my mood.
With blocks, I've learned I do those for a reason. With mutes, I turn them off after a day or so.
@Ironworker229 @stueytheround I know for a fact that I have changed people's minds here and elsewhere.
I come for the conversation and camaraderie, but I also converse (here and in other aspects of my life) in the hopes that my ideas will be changed and refined and helped by others, and that I will have a positive impact on others and maybe change their minds, too.
But each of us wants what we want out of this, and that's okay!
@stueytheround
I'm sorry to hear. : (
What does that feeling feel like, if I may ask? I know that might be a weird question, like asking what a mango smells like or what a color looks like.
I always have _thoughts_ when something like that happens (now that I've learned to think about it), but I don't get a _feeling_ I can associate with it.
I feel like that sensation serves a purpose - to help keep us caring about others.
I don't wish I could feel it, though!