I was emotionally and psychologically abused (unintentionally) by my grandmother for over 40 years. She refuses to acknowledge the fact.
My mother has spent maybe a total of 2 years in my whole life.
So no, I won't be celebrating Mother's Day or sending anyone a card.
@postal_poet hugs, took me a while to celebrate mother and father's days. I hope you too can heal one day
@dratino while I appreciate your positive vibes, I don't think things will get better. I haven't spoken to my grandmother for over 2 months (she refuses to call me and I got tired of being the one to call her), and I have no idea where my mother is or how to get in touch with her anyway.
@postal_poet almost 80% of the time I speak with mine I feel like I did something wrong.. not sure why she is still like that but I have moved on and realized she will never change.
@dratino with my grandmother, every time I talked with her on the phone, the conversation would inevitably devolve into "I raised you from birth, I gave up my life for you, I did everything for you. You should do things for me, like send me gifts (money/gift cards)." I just got sick of it finally. I'm just sad that it took me 42 years to realize it.
@postal_poet I realize we all have our demons but I will not make the mistakes they did. I think that helps me find my peace with them.