Good news: we found a place to house mom. She loves it & dad is totally on board. Just spent the afternoon w/mom talking about family history & memories, as much as we could, while dad got some time to complete the paperwork.
This is fucking awesome. I'm so glad. Mom's needed memory care for a while now & it seemed like dad was in some denial about her needing it, & didn't know what to do. Well he can't care for her on his own, she needs more intensive care than he can provide, so thank Athena Hygeia, we found a good place. & reserved a room.
& she's totally stoked about moving in. The only sad thing that gets her is it's finally dawning on her Parkinson's-muddled mind that dad can't move in with her. :(
It's hard. She's sad about that. & she's still really positive about moving. She's really excited to do things like decorate, & choose her bedding & the pictures she wants to hang on the wall, & all the things she'll get to do while she lives there.
@Impious_Jade Best wishes to your whole family as this change unfolds. Your dad will need lots of love to maintain his balance, mom will be mostly busy and hopefully will maintain the best balance that she can. Hoping you have a counselor (or us!) to talk with to help you maintain YOUR mental and emotional balance. You're all doing your best! Let me know if you want to chat.
@mims Thank you! Sis & I are working hard w/the memory care staff to make sure both mom & dad have support. It's a process & man it's hard, there's so much stuff to take care of. I think it'll be so good for both of them tho'. They'll be able to focus on doing *good stuff* together instead of dad struggling & mom not having the right kind of care.
@Impious_Jade Our family went through something like this when my DH's mom (dear husband's mom ) finally accepted going into memory care. She was there til she passed 9 years later. It was a whole thing for many in the family. I was off to the side but watched it all. Please take care of yourself! And your sis. As the youngers in the tableau, it behooves you to have your OWN support(s). ✨💖✨🫂