@rakshy I’m not blaming anyone, and I would ask them why they did it if they’d actually communicate. That’s the problem, they won’t talk with anyone unfortunately

@StarlightEmber, I'm sorry that you lost touch with them. Don't lose hope; sometimes they come back, and if you are ready and willing to restore the relationship it might work our. I had exactly this experience.

@rakshy Thank you 💖

@FreyaMeansLady First off, I’m glad you’re protecting yourself

I agree abuse is certainly cause for that choice but is not the case in the two situations.

And the impact to extended family is my specific concern. There’s a grandmother who may never hear from her grandkids again who was in no way a part of the conflict that drove the separation in one case and a grandfather in another. My heart just breaks for them.

Hope this helps with context and hope you’re doing ok

@StarlightEmber thank you for your reply. The way I look at it is that if an adult wants a relationship with another adult, they’ll have one. There are other places to meet than family homes. Malls, restaurants for example. Speaking for myself, the little bit of positive emotion I might get from contacting those people is vastly overwritten by the trauma.