An old acquaintance I used to know recently texted me randomly to apologize for "things they said" and "how they left things" at 10pm the other night after I haven't heard from them in 9 years or so.
9 years ago - after they had ghosted me previously for almost a decade - I had told them I wasn't interested in entering back into a relationship of any kind with them and they called me judgmental and selfish and that I should learn to accept people "how they are".
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I'm not a person who holds grudges though people have accused me of this - my parents especially - but more I make an assessment of someone's behavior and patterns and make a decision about where they should be placed in my life - if anywhere at all - and they stay where I have placed them. It's really that simple. It's a decision, not a grudge. People with negative behavior patterns, emotional dysregulation, selfishness, etc ... they go outside of my personal circle and stay there.
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