My mother died this past weekend.
She had Parkinson's dementia. She was doing mostly OK a year ago last May. We had to move her to memory care in September because she started wandering off.
A little over a week ago she fell, twice in 2 days. We didn't recognize it at the time, but it was probably terminal agitation. She wouldn't stop moving.
3rd day, she was unresponsive & apneic. Memory care called 911 & sent her to the local ED. She never really left.
Sometime after her fall she was given Valium to help calm her agitation. It worked - but she probably aspirated at some point. And then it was all over. She started actively dying from that point.
Dad & I were with her when she died.
If you've never seen anyone actively dying, it's rough.
