@janallmac I know from experience that hate is baggage and destructive. It will eat a person's soul in time.
That said, it's not up to me to judge where a person is at or the choices they make. It's up to me to love that person, and try to be present in the hopes of them rising above the things that are tearing them down. Hate is not my choice, but when it is someone's choice that means something has gone terribly wrong.
@NiveusLepus It is! Something has broken, somehow, when that happens.