Also, I have to stress how exhausting it is to have randoms try to hit you up for a date when you're just going out in ratty sweats for - in my case - 4 eggs, a tomato, an onion, and a bag of cream.
I understand that we live in a lonely world, but folks really don't seem to realize how lonely they can make a person feel by trying to make a stranger feel bad for not giving their number / going for a coffee".
Leveraging another's desire to live in peace in one's neighbourhood is a shitty tactic.
That last post brought to you by:
This morning's egg run!
After yesterday's egg run with a different dude pulling a similar stunt!
And to be clear, it's not just a Colombian thing. In Canada, I used to work at a bookstore where I was alone for the final hour. You bet your bippy that I was not *actually* alone in the store for that final hour most days.
My dudes.
We need to build better communities of care.
This is not the way to heal the loneliness in so many hearts.
@MLClark You are brave. Social pressure or their anticipation is one of the things that keeps me in the house.
Oh, I am so glad you do what you need to, to keep your beautiful heart hippity-hopping without more distress than life already throws our way. You are *wise* to keep your courage for the confrontations that matter most. ❤️
@MLClark I hope to make you smile, because I have my own understanding of this. People rarely make requests for my number but some people are snarly to me sometimes, though its gotten rarer.
I always worry about these things though, and being out is an eggshell thing. I don't always have the social skills calibrated right.
Totally. We have different experiences, & the threats of violence matter *so* much. 💙
I have always "passed", & that creates its own complex loneliness. Here in Colombia, I also dress more femme because that ironically saves me from looking *as* much like a tourist - different harassment for different coding, the latter more dangerous.
But all those folks who see & respond to the femininity of the body and apparel... they do not know me. They only see a "free" feminized object.
Still - and especially - your safety matters so, so much.
I wish the world were kinder.
I wish they saw and honoured you as the beautiful being you are.
I'm glad you have a safe space, and good people, close to home.
@MLClark Not all the world sees me, but the good people do, and that's a great barometer to have.
You're one of the bright lights that shines in my sky, and I am so grateful for your kindness, patience and support. That's a true friends thing. ^_^
For all my challenges, the blessings count for more, and that is something to always thank the Gods for.
Oh, Rebecca, you have given me SUCH good energy with which to step out into the world again this afternoon.
🤗 Thank you for this gift of a chat, and your friendship.
I will say hello to a flower and tell them all about you.