@stueytheround they are 9, 8, and 5 and I asked them what they wanted to call me and it was daddy. They are very loyal their their mom too

@MarvelousMadi13 In which case I guess you're Daddy until or unless they change their minds 🙂

@stueytheround guess I need to get used to the stares 😑

@MarvelousMadi13 Time to work on your own laser stare? "Yeah! They call me Daddy. Deal with it."

@stueytheround lol

@BillieBun we've tried to think of some but they don't like any of them

@MarvelousMadi13 Just to tie it off, she decided that I'd be "amá" or "mommy" to differentiate me from "mama" (my primary partner).

It was a little tricky for her at first, but knowing that it was important to me too made her happy to do it, especially as she was involved in the word choice.

Now she says stuff like, "Mom!" *one of us looks over* "No, I mean my other mom." 😆

@lenaoflune @MarvelousMadi13 My ex was adamant that I not be called anything close to Mom. I didn't want the Dad label so we just went with first name.

When I got together with my now wife, her child was 11 and he was given the choice. Again, first name. He referred to me as Mom's Friend or Graci. Later on I was "My step". Finally, about 2 years ago (he was 32) he pulled me into a hug and apologized for "my adolescent shit" and told me I was his Mom too.

Huzzah for waterproof mascara!

@Graci @lenaoflune that's great he finally came around!

@lenaoflune I've looked up a few but maybe not enough.

@MarvelousMadi13 Sometimes it helps to give them the list and let them pick. There's a lot of options :)

Also, if your ex is pushing them away from recognizing your transition -- and I certainly hope that's not the case -- that can be very challenging. I'm not really sure how to address that, if that's what's happening 💔 :(