Having a good test of my patience.
Today a park guard asked me for my number, after calling me over I thought for something important. He was with a female guard at the time, so I focused on her & discussed openly how hard it is for women* to exist in public without constantly being approached by men, to which she agreed. *For a second* he seemed to process this too.
But then he jogged over to where I was doing my last set of reps to ask me out again.
I just... 🤦🏻♂️
The other animals are great.
@MLClark No, you cannot and must not do that. Your health is so important, and letting people intimidate you is not good for you. Do what you must to stay safe, but please, take care of your health! 💜
@MLClark I get that sort of thing at work. I hate being called sweetie or darling by someone who doesn’t even know my name. A couple times I responded with, “I’m not your sweetie/darling!”, but this seems to only confuse them and ends up in a discuss about how that is what they call all women. Not once has it ever hit one of them that this is too familiar and offensive.
Maybe next time I’ll start calling them Dick.
@MLClark I can't apologize for us. We are unworthy of redemption.
*You* are a pretty rad person, though! Good fellas doing right by their loved ones and communities create hope for us all. 🤗
@SECRET_ASIAN_MAN @MLClark
Yeah, Sam, I'm sure you're not out there forcing your attentions on people who are just exercising in their neighborhood, or trying to make people feel intimidated. You don't need to apologize for those who do. 💜
@MLClark I am shocked you don’t have a stock answer for such a scenario like “thank you, but as a condition of my probation I’m am prohibited from dating for three years - they think I’ll cut another guy’s dick off in a jealous rage.”
Too subtle for this type, but GLORIOUS for a laugh. 😅
*Feminized people. This is why I don't care as much when people use she instead of they / no pronouns. I *never* feel a sense of gender except when I have gender expectations heaped on me by dudes on the street, but that's the real threat in my life.
Earlier this year, I let this get to me & stopped going outside as often, exercising, etc. Gained weight, lost muscle, lived with way more stress in my body overall.
But so help me, self-centred dudes aside, I am not letting this get to me again.