Do you have a litmus test question?
Not necessarily for dating - I'm thinking about general interactions with new people. (But if the dating bit applies, go for it.)
Is there a question you ask that gives you a sense of whether there might be friction between you two in the future, but which is innocuous enough that the other person doesn't feel interrogated here and now?
I ask because, hilariously, one of mine is in this episode.
"What's your favourite conspiracy theory?" can yield a great conversation... or bring out a lot of toxic worldviews very quickly. (I learned about a Colombian version of blood libel myth this way. 🙃)
It's not something I bring up, but if it does come up, it's their views on public education.
If they're in favor, they're cool. That tells me they understand the role of society and what we owe future generations.
If they bring up charter schools, that's a yellow flag. I have complicated feelings there, but basically there are good ones, but many siphon money from public schools while limiting who can enroll.
Private schools/vouchers are a red flag.
That's an excellent one. All children are citizens and also our collective future in trust. They deserve, across the board, high standards of public education.
Thanks for this, Neil.