I want affection so badly. A backrub would be heavenly. If I were to ask my local friends they would look at my sideways. I want a partner but it's not worth it, the way people treat each other these days. And before you ask, no I am NOT PAYING SOMEONE TO CUDDLE ME. Yes those services exist. If I had the money to pay someone for that I would get a professional massage. I can barely get a hug from my friends. Touch is my love language and my lovetank is empty.
@JeniRizio being touch starved can happen to anyone. i'm sorry you can't afford to pay for a professional massage once in awhile. those are lovely.
may i suggest volunteering at an old folks' home? they are often just as touch starved and would love a hug or someone to hold their hand and talk with them for awhile.
@singlemaltgirl I live in a building for disabled folx and a lot are older. I come and visit, we help each other. None seem to want a hug, I've offered. :(
@JeniRizio oh damn. that's too bad. i'm so sorry. i wish i had some other suggestions. i'm surprised that some of your friends wouldn't be up for a hug. i know not everyone likes touch but i have a couple of friends who would happily give me a hug.
i know my donors give me hugs (whether i want them or not). are there people you meet that you can become familiar enough that they might greet you with hugs?
@singlemaltgirl my friends are very standoffish. I'll offer a hug they'll take it, but it feels forced or unwanted. I really want a back rub or a shoulder rub, even a quick squeeze or something.
@JeniRizio that makes sense to not want to hug peeps that aren't really genuinely into it.