Yeah, I'm sick of doing shit alone.
That's out of left field. The basics: I'm here at a family home putting the place together for a belated Xmas dinner. Nothing hard, not too many people, so that's OK, it's not like a party for 40 people or something.
I also tried to do a bit of decorating tho'. Like put up holiday lights & some stuff like that. & already got food prep done. & had a 3-hour IOP session. & my back just went out. & the front toilet plugged up & I don't know why, there wasn't a damn thing in there.
I'm doing this shit all by myself. & I can't do it anymore today bc of my back - I'm now in a ton of pain, about 7/10 on the pain scale. & I'm doing it ALONE.
I am SO. FUCKING. TIRED. of doing shit like this alone.
Been thinking a lot about emotional labor & boundaries & being taken for granted & how happy a looooooot of ppl are to just sit back & let *someone else* (me, for this particular sitch) do all the work.
I'm starting to resent my partner about it.
@Impious_Jade May be time to tell people that you have to have assistance. If they want an event to happen, they need to get involved.
@BillieBun Yeah. I honestly think that some of this is that nobody really cares that much but me about these get-togethers. Or maybe they care? But don't want to put in the labor. Or they can't.
@Impious_Jade Best way to find out is to make it clear that if people want some event they have to help. Maybe they won't care enough to help, but either way you shouldn't be expected to do everything. Maybe it hasn't occurred to them that this is too much for one person. Telling people they must chip in will be an adjustment for them, but you simply shouldn't have to do everything.