Good news: we found a place to house mom. She loves it & dad is totally on board. Just spent the afternoon w/mom talking about family history & memories, as much as we could, while dad got some time to complete the paperwork.
This is fucking awesome. I'm so glad. Mom's needed memory care for a while now & it seemed like dad was in some denial about her needing it, & didn't know what to do. Well he can't care for her on his own, she needs more intensive care than he can provide, so thank Athena Hygeia, we found a good place. & reserved a room.
& she's totally stoked about moving in. The only sad thing that gets her is it's finally dawning on her Parkinson's-muddled mind that dad can't move in with her. :(
@Impious_Jade this is a very rough thing for your mom and dad to have to process. It brought to mind one of my mom’s roommates who also dealt with advanced dementia. Georgina’s husband came daily to help her with lunch. Once the aides got her cleaned up and settled in bed for a nap, her husband would lie down beside her for a nap too
@KarenSohne I love that, somehow, people still keeping connections with one another. Dad won't be able to stay over with mom, but he can visit all the time, & take her out, & go for dates again, & stuff like that.
@Impious_Jade that was post lunch naps, don’t know if there were actual overnights