So I squabbled w/the SO all day yesterday. Both of us were cranky & irritable & exhausted & snippy.
& we didn't fight dirty or attack each other, & at the end of the day we apologized to one another (not for our feelings, but our attitudes), snuggled in & went to sleep.
This is not normal relationship behavior for me.
Given my own issues, past, alchemy, etc., I've tended to land w/toxic SOs & in relationships that go sour & unhealthy, even outright abusive. It wasn't until just the last few years that I was finally able to reject that pattern, get grounded & do differently.
A couple of years ago I had the spine to tell a now-ex that I knew he was treating me like shit & I was done with it. Told him off, walked away, never looked back. A big deal, for me.
So now I fight w/the current SO & we actually *resolve shit*. Wut??