combo of fibro plus typical virus has me unable to do much. gaming hurts, walking hurts, bathing is exhausting. i am gonna keep focusing on hygiene, food, and my kid until this passes.
this is a huge reason that i stay solitary. i don't like asking for help and support from people i am close to. i really don't like asking for it from strangers. it's just not something i have an easy time admitting.
i look completely fine until i am not.
@invisiblecatmom I don't do well with it either, but one of my good friends explained to me that by letting those close to you know you are struggling and know that you need help every now and then, you make your friendships deeper.
Like I am more than willing to help out anyone but I also do the mask thing like you.
What that does, at least to genuine close friends (not manipulators or bad actors) is create an inbalance in the friendship. They feel you are always helping and they aren't.
@Hobyrim I'm trying hard to learn this. My first task has been trusting my mental stability with friends who are supportive instead of telling me to do whatever everyone else is doing. I have 3 friends IRL who do this for me and it has been helping tremendously. They know when I'm hurting and they check in without needing permission because the check ins are non judgemental and simply curious.