I know what the intention of the words is. I feel, though, that complimenting talent instead of skill unconsciously programs us to think, "I can't do that thing because I wasn't lucky enough to be able to do it perfectly within 5 mins of seeing someone else do it. That other person is lucky that it's easy for them."
I've spent my whole life so far being TOO concerned about pleasing other people. Thinking I would be safe if I figured out how to keep other people happy. I'm ready to do what makes me happy, and spread that joy to others. And try to stop worrying so much (I'll still worry some) about the people who refuse to receive that.
I am 45 years old. I spent the first 38 years trying to make someone proud of me who, even if we were still in contact, never would be. Then I spent 7 years accepting that and grieving. It's a special kind of hurt when a parent and child just don't "fit" with each other.
I'm going to make ME proud of me. Despite all the times I've been accused of being "so proud of yourself", or not caring about other people "because you only care about yourself"... No. That was never it.
The necklace means a lot more than just what it means on "Picard". I recognized the symbol immediately and my autistic brain started info dumping all the ways it could apply to the story. And his autistic brain knew this was a particularly personal level of special interest, so he quietly bought me the necklace.
Y'ALL! Okay...I know we're late on this, but my husband and I recently started watching season 1 of "Picard". This has been very emotional for me so far. Not just visiting those characters again, but also the stories being told about family and trauma.
He bought me the necklace! The one Soji and Dahj wear!
Were you ever spanked, yanked, cranked but finally thanked?
Manipulated by the nips, tucks & WTF’s?
Laugh tracked & gaff wracked until totally whacked?
Beat down, beat off, back beat unto retreat?
Face boxed, Twatter rocked half tracked on the Substack?
If so, welcome to CoSo
Ain’t none of that here
Breathe in, breathe out, relax
Have a soda or a beer
Swing on the porch
Swim in the pool
Go exploring with a torch
Or learn like it’s school
Bard with a ukulele. Friend of Lake Monster. 93% stardust. Autistic. Fabulously weird.