been friends for years with my abuser. Because she didn't know. Even though they went to the same church until her family moved, their sons grew up together in Boy Scouts, her husband and the abuser belonged to the same Masonic Lodge at one time... And really, she didn't know. And that's just one example.

Many victims go through this. Swearing up and down that everyone closely connected to an abuser had to know comes too closer to accusing a victim of lying.