#FirstCoffeeThoughts

One of the fastest blocks I ever did here on CoSo was someone who responded to one of my threads that looking at a negative situation that happened and seeing my level of fault in it - instead of blaming others - was "a kind of learned helplessness".

Let me just make something clear for those that also seem to have no sense: Blaming others is not strength, playing the victim is not strength, getting angry is not strength, and accountability is FAR from weakness.

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Getting riled up psychologically and emotionally over things that are 100% out of your control serves no purpose other than running you into an early grave and allowing outside powers to have mastery over you. You become enslaved to anger and all that does is further empower the things that are oppressing you.

I wrote other day about "genin wo mitsukeru" - getting to the root of the problem / finding the root cause - being part of hansei.

Think of hansei ultimately as a kind of apology.

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𝘏𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘪 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘑𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘌𝘯𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩. 𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 ‘𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵’ 𝘰𝘳 ‘𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘵’.

𝘏𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘪 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘨𝘰 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨, ‘𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳? 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺?’

Han (反) means “change”,“to see something from a different perspective”, and Sei (省) means “to review”, “to examine yourself”.

It is accountability.

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𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘢𝘴 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘰𝘳 “𝘣𝘢𝘥.” 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 “𝘣𝘢𝘥” 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯, 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘣𝘭𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦—𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦.

𝘔𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘢. 𝘐𝘧 𝘸𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘥 “𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥” 𝘢𝘯𝘥 “𝘣𝘢𝘥” 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘸𝘦’𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘎𝘰𝘥, 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘮𝘪𝘦𝘴.

- Marcus Aurelius

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