I have an acquaintance that calls me often because she is bored or feeling restless. She's a very miserable person and I have a difficult time handling people who are perpetually depressed and won't do anything to examine that state. She is also a very angry person as a result of being depressed which also makes her difficult to handle. She is the type of person to complain about everything - work, people, the world, her health, her life - but will never do anything to change things.
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I am always unsure of how to respond to such people. I don't know how to talk to them or advise them because they don't want advice, they just want to complain or vent or yell and then go back to their misery. They want to drag someone else down with them and get mad when you don't respond in kind to their negativity. I don't have patience for that stuff. I'm a goaler. I'm a doer. I'm someone who doesn't believe in complaining and never taking any steps to fix anything or even trying to.
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She works a lot and hates her job. She also hates people and everyone she works with. She judges everyone and always has complaints about people around her. People are boring. Life is boring. Her health is bad. etc etc and on and on but never any ideas about making a change or trying to explore different things. She has no hobbies. She doesn't read books. She doesn't like music. She doesn't enjoy anything at all. She doesn't like putting effort into things. What kind of a life is that?
She's one of those people that only wants someone to agree with her that life is awful or that life is terrible. She only wants you to stay in negativity with her. If you offer anything she gets mad or feels judged. If you try to make suggestions she has all the reasons in the world why those things won't work. If you offer any kind of advice she thinks you're a "know it all" ... These kinds of people are just so tedious and exhausting to deal with. They take energy from you.
Some people do exist in the world to take from others. Energy vampires or whatever you call them ... these people just want someone to walk through misery with them and they take whatever energy they can get from whomever will take that journey with them. They thrive in negativity and actively sabotage any opportunity for positive experiences to change their worldview. It's a deliberate way of living and sucking the life out of everyone around them.
Don't be that person.