Etiquette question: My neighbors are a retiree & his wife, who has schizophrenia. We're friendly in the shovel-each-other's-sidewalks way but we don't hang out.
A few weeks ago, we were at the hospital behavioral health unit visiting a friend who has bipolar syndrome. As we were leaving, neighbor arrived.
So, we said, "Hi, ____,." and took our leave. Clearly, he was visiting his wife. Didn't know she was hospitalized.
If we run into him outside, should we ask how she is? Her mental health has never been a subject of conversation before.
Or should we leave it alone unless he brings up the subject?
@Indefinite_Article I would suggest asking in a way that gives your neighbour a lot of latitude to answer however he sees fit.
When it comes up, in the context of regular greetings and small chat, etc., it can be as easy as "How's _____?"
If he wants to answer "Fine," that's okay. If he wants to go further, then he can make that choice too.
Asking at least opens the door to him not feeling isolated in this.