i dislike the term adulting.
like when did that become something to strive for? i was adulting since i was a kid. doing stuff because either i should or because i was told to, and sometimes i have some time for myself to not worry about that stuff for a little bit. isn't this just living? π€
Using the term Adulting, is a way of compartmentalizing what you HAVE to do, and what you truly WANT to do. Without that compartmentalization, do you really know your own passions well enough to spot them when opportunity arises?
Like, what do you do because it's good for you or puts food on the table, and what do you do because your Soul YEARNS for it?
And how would you know the difference if you don't have a word for it?
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@Heucuva8
Why is it worse?
You're 40.
"Adulting" didn't exist as a word for the first 70% of your life.
What did you use?
Those things which one *must* do. It's the very definition of responsibility.
Adulting is a childish term grown out of memes and in my personal opinion is a sign of lazy vocabulary.
I won't complain if you use it, but there have been perfectly adequate words around for centuries so to suggest that there isn't an appropriate alternative is a bit silly! π
My issue with it, is how many people talk about their responsibilities as a Burden? One that weighs them down.
How many see them as a source of pride, that they accomplished something?
Adulting, people can take pride in, that despite the criticism they hear from themself and others, they DID something.
It is a marker that you are valuable, and have achieved something, no matter how small.
It feels GOOD to have Adulted, &
Discouraging to have Responsibilities.
@Heucuva8
How about duty and duties, then?
"I have done my duty." is incredibly positive and not at all burdensome. It implies service and self-sacrifice for the good.
That said, I do not find the idea of responsibilities to be negative.
To have responsibilities and to carry them out is a sign of *responsibility*; maturity.
To be a responsible person is very grown up. Very adult. Very good.
@Heucuva8
That doesn't mean that I don't want to avoid my responsibilities sometimes. Occasionally, being irresponsible is bloody good fun!
We all need to be childlike now and then.
@Heucuva8
In the end, adulting is just shorthand for "being an adult" or "growing up" I suppose.
It just sounds wrong in my head when mature people use it. It sounds like something an 18 year old would say after a bad day at their first job!
The meme:
"I don't want to adult today, I just want to cat." could just as easily be written "I don't want to be an adult today, I just want to be a cat."
It mightn't be as funny, but it would certainly be more correct! π€£
#PedantsRus
I hear you, but that's an even worse word.
"Beholdens" because you're beholden to someone else for them?
English sucks.
@stueytheround @BlackRabbit