@Nimthiriel
I am baffled. What was that? π€
@Krysdammit This person explained their feelings about their deadname and used the analogy of referring to Yugoslavia, in the sense that itβs not accurate not refer to that region as that now, but can be useful when discussing historical events. They then had to add a clarification to their post due to the unseen responses from people who misinterpreted and thought this personβs parents had named them Yugoslavia.
@see_the_sus @Krysdammit A deadname is the name by which a trans Persian was known before they transitioned. To βdeadnameβ someone is to refer to them by that name.
aaaaah. so in other words, "my old/previous name." Interesting use of "dead." Definitely is final.
So it's only used by trans Persians?
@see_the_sus @Nimthiriel @Krysdammit I think that was a bad autocorrect.
Trans people use it to refer to our previous names for a variety of reasons (I posted earlier on this thread about my journey on it, going from "given name" to "deadname").
It's often a painful reminder of the Persona we'd created to protect ourselves prior to coming out, and the term makes it clear the name shouldn't be used as it refers to an entity that no longer exists.
@lenaoflune
TY 4 telling me this. That was such a poorly worded post that I fixated on another part of it. The county's name which no longer exists. Thought that they were complaining about their name which might be in their native language from that country.
We see what irritates us and use that for context. I too have trouble with my name because it is foreign here.π€·ββοΈ
My eldest is trans, never occurred to me that that was what this person was referencing
@see_the_sus @Nimthiriel
@Krysdammit @lenaoflune @see_the_sus I have a foreign name too. Ultimately started going by a different one because I got fed up with it being mispronounced by anyone reading it.
@Nimthiriel
Mine is common enough in the English world, pronounced the English way, which I detest.
Pronouncing it my way isn't hard, but ppl need to remember. Too much trouble for them to do such a simple thing.
Iβm so sorry that people cause such grief for you with your names. I love learning to pronounce names Iβm unfamiliar with and consider it a fun educational challenge.
Good gawd, thatβs so disrespectful. π‘ Who gives a fuck how YOU like it, ya dumb git!
@see_the_sus
For some reason this person wanted to be my friend. We aren't. π I wonder why? If they don't listen and steamroll you over such a simple, basic, thing, then they are a bully.
@Nimthiriel @lenaoflune