Question for you all because #CoSoRocks
I have a friend. Sheโs such a good person. She has a tremendous heart and often thinks of others before herself. Lifeโs been good for her, and at the same time, others take advantage of her kindness and generosity. The question she asks herself is โWhen is it going to be my turn?โ
I was wondering if any of you brilliant minds had any advice I could give her. Right now, my reply to her question is โYou gotta take it to have it be your turn.โ
Ideas?
@mcfate @mikeharmanos She has to stand up for herself and say โNoโ sometimes. A little tough love. And practicing self-care. ๐
@mikeharmanos she might need someone consistent to support it being her turn, otherwise she might not be able to get there her whole life.
@mikeharmanos itโs hard to say no. My MIL is like your friend, and she has been telling me how people are expecting her to do stuff (like bake certain treats for the church group sheโs in bake sale, etc) Itโs hard to break free from trying not to ruffle feathers.
@mikeharmanos
I can relate! Also itโs unfortunately very common.
She could start by doing something just because SHE wants to. Could be big or small. For example a trip to a place she just wants to go for her own experience or enjoyment. Or a class or course in something she just wants to learn just because she is interested. Yes she has to make room for it to happen and if that is new/uncomfortable she can start small. And it would help if she had someone supporting her wholeheartedly!
@mikeharmanos
It'll be "her turn" when she stops letting people take her turn for her.