This is a video of ABSOLUTELY painful truths that I don't think a lot of white people think enough about. This spells things out SO beautifully and has some mouth dropping phrases that manage to clarify so much.
This was a powerful watch of absolute FACTS.
I don't use the word friendship often. I'm rarely friends with people. I have a lot of acquaintances and not a lot of friends. My definition of friendship is too complicated for most.
This video is great at partially explaining why.
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It's not so much specific to ant-racism work ... but about WORK in general. Work on the self.
I can't be friends with people who haven't done ANY work on themselves. I can't be friends with people completely unaware of other people's realities. I can't be friends with people who just have no clue of anything outside of themselves. I can't be friends with people completely unaware of the harm they cause. I can't be friends with UNACCOUNTABLE people.
Anti-racism work is just one part of that.
๐๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ช๐ต๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ค๐บ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ต๐บ ...
๐๐ญ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ต, ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ข๐ค๐ค๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ถ๐ด. ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต'๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ข๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ด "๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ" ...
"๐ ๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ข๐ฎ๐ฆ" ๐ช๐ด๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ข ๐ง๐ญ๐ฆ๐น, ๐ช๐ต ๐ช๐จ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ'๐ด ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฆ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ด ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ช๐ค๐ฉ ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ถ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ต ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ ...
๐ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ, ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต, ๐ข๐ด ๐ข ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฃ. ๐๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ?
๐๐ฐ๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ต๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด๐ฉ๐ช๐ฑ ๐ช๐ง ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ'๐ต ๐ต๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ค๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ...
This video does a great job of explaining what really needs to be understood about being a true friend to any marginalized people ... far beyond just Black people ... but any members of the #GlobalMajority ... be that disabled people, trans people, gay people, neurodivergent people, etc ... anyone who cannot benefit directly from white privilege.
There are nazis, white supremacists, klan members literally marching freely in the streets so at this point where you stand is important to know.
Friendship has higher stakes these days ... it goes WAY beyond just simple support ... Things are serious in the world and things are absolutely a matter of life and death for some people ... if you really have no concept of the fact that marginalized people have very different realities than you, then you're a shitty friend. It's really that simple.
Treating everyone the same makes no sense if you're talking about quality of friendship or quality of care. Everyone is different. Everyone has different concerns, needs, difficulties, challenges that shouldn't be ignored and need to be things that can be shared and discussed openly. Physical health issues, mental health issues, triggers, etc ... you can't just pretend these things aren't a part of who someone is and that you don't need to know about or understand them. That's not friendship.
The things that change the quality, safety, and reality of someone's life cannot just be ignored or treated as if they don't exist. That is just not how friendship, care, love etc should be between people. Frankly that's just awful and I would never be friends with someone that didn't want to put in the work to understand that or me.
@thewebrecluse Its always strange to me that people wouldn't want to do things that improve the lives of the people they care about, like, if you're friends with someone, isn't the whole point that you want to get to know them and support them. To learn who they are and how you can help them thrive in life โค๏ธ