What a shallow world we live in! Has anyone ever been rejected for all of the wrong reasons when it comes to dating? I’m plagued with always being dumped for “being too polite”….as if I’m being fake about it. What you see with me is what you get….and some people just stupidly can’t handle that. Have we become such a materialistic society that good people are considered boring now? WTF??
Don’t give up.
I sometimes lament the nice guys I walked away from because of preference for bad boys who had nothing but pain to offer.
The right partner will find you 💫
@LnzyHou “right partner will find me”? When?? I’m 47, never been married, no kids….can’t pass a third date to save my fucking life because of being unfairly considered “boring” or having “ulterior motives”. Latest disaster of a date happened when I tried to pay for both mine and my date’s meal and unfairly being accused of treating her “like a whore”. Seriously, WTF?? Getting accused of crap you haven’t done is very disheartening
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou Are you using a dating service? If so, make sure your profile states you are an old fashioned guy who likes being polite, opening doors for others, etc. That way there can be no accidental pairing with someone who mistakes old fashioned politeness for “treating her like a white” (I have no idea how she got there but I do know some women are uncomfortable with having doors opened and the man paying. But I also know some don’t mind a bit if that and done really like this.
My son was dating a new woman years ago. He bought her roses & took her to a really nice restaurant.
After a couple drinks, she announced she was going to restroom. When she stood up, so did my son.
She was immediately horrified & accused him of trying to follow her into the restroom.
He was embarrassed & dumbfounded by her conduct. That was their last date.
He found a partner who appreciated a man with manners.
@LnzyHou @cjcrew @Punisher1976
I would just feel seen
@Idissent @LnzyHou @Punisher1976 Some people are uncomfortable with being too seen. I am one of those. Mom wasn’t big on demonstrative displays of affection, we knew we were loved, we just didn’t pair it with lots of hugs and kisses. As a sexual assault survivor I am very uncomfortable having someone I don’t know well in my personal space. I’m protective of my personal space.
@cjcrew @LnzyHou @Punisher1976
Perfectly understandable. My household was much like you described minus any abuse. I'm so incredibly sorry
@Idissent @LnzyHou @Punisher1976 It’s weird that something that happened so long ago still affects my life in significant ways. But I’ve learned to adapt most of the time.