What a shallow world we live in! Has anyone ever been rejected for all of the wrong reasons when it comes to dating? I’m plagued with always being dumped for “being too polite”….as if I’m being fake about it. What you see with me is what you get….and some people just stupidly can’t handle that. Have we become such a materialistic society that good people are considered boring now? WTF??
Don’t give up.
I sometimes lament the nice guys I walked away from because of preference for bad boys who had nothing but pain to offer.
The right partner will find you 💫
@LnzyHou “right partner will find me”? When?? I’m 47, never been married, no kids….can’t pass a third date to save my fucking life because of being unfairly considered “boring” or having “ulterior motives”. Latest disaster of a date happened when I tried to pay for both mine and my date’s meal and unfairly being accused of treating her “like a whore”. Seriously, WTF?? Getting accused of crap you haven’t done is very disheartening
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou Are you using a dating service? If so, make sure your profile states you are an old fashioned guy who likes being polite, opening doors for others, etc. That way there can be no accidental pairing with someone who mistakes old fashioned politeness for “treating her like a white” (I have no idea how she got there but I do know some women are uncomfortable with having doors opened and the man paying. But I also know some don’t mind a bit if that and done really like this.
My son was dating a new woman years ago. He bought her roses & took her to a really nice restaurant.
After a couple drinks, she announced she was going to restroom. When she stood up, so did my son.
She was immediately horrified & accused him of trying to follow her into the restroom.
He was embarrassed & dumbfounded by her conduct. That was their last date.
He found a partner who appreciated a man with manners.
@LnzyHou @Punisher1976. Wow. I find it hard to believe that today’s younger people don’t even know that a man standing up when a woman stands up is just old fashioned manners. They don’t watch enough old black and white movies.
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou Don’t despair. If dating service aren’t working try basic socializing. Dances, banquets, sports, music. They all involve people. Even this backward hick area has social functions where people can be met. Your area should have something. Hobbies are good. Sports, social functions, political functions, church, school. There are a lot of places where you can meet other people, making friends and even find someone to spend your life with.
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou Fuck these people, you make your own rules.
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou What I’ve noticed in my lifetime is people follow, they just need a leader. I’m an introvert but I’ve taken charge at times and turned things around so I know it can be done. I don’t like doing it but the question would be how important is this to you? It’s amazing what you can do when it’s important enough to you.
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou And believe me, somewhere there is a woman or man thinking the exact same thing you are. It’s hard for everyone, you just have to take those first steps.
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou This is really kinda human nature isn’t it? We like to complicate things.
@cjcrew @LnzyHou Too many so-called SJW’s fighting for illegitimate causes is another reason why no one likes to focus on the good things people have to offer as opposed to their fewer flaws and have twisted everything around and act like those that do have good qualities must have something wrong with them…..”Oh he/she is so nice they just be hiding something!” That is at least my take on the whole thing.
They aren’t raised with manners. Lousy parents.
@LnzyHou @cjcrew You got that right, right on its head. I was drilled by my parents how to be polite and show manners no matter what the situation was. If I was ever interpreted as “rude”, boy did I get privileges taken away even unfairly at times. These lousy parents shouldn’t have kids if they are not going to guide them or discipline them.
@LnzyHou @Punisher1976 Could be lousy manners but it could also be that these are not really niceties we observe anymore. Not on a regular basis anyway. I’m old enough that many of my peers were brought up with these manners. I wasn’t, I learned them through mistakes, observation and friends who helped guide me. My family was not social and what socializations we did have usually didn’t include the need for politeness.
This event took place 20 yrs ago when it was an issue.
Men never stand anymore. At least not for me.
Back in the day, I frequently approached a table of men saying “No need to stand”. Because they did.
@LnzyHou @Punisher1976 The last guy I dated was very big in the overt niceties. Covered his cold heart when it came to money. He was generous with some but very stingy with people not in his inner circle, including his own family.
@LnzyHou @Punisher1976 I never even knew men still did this until I dated a guy who did this.
@cjcrew @LnzyHou It’s almost like a group of people,whether they be men or women, had too much time on their hands and decided “Hey! Let’s make it near fucking impossible for anyone to find a soulmate anymore based on their merits and let’s turn those merits into bullshit flaws to use against them!” People are just too fucking much anymore! They don’t realize how good we can have it in society but want to make it miserable for the majority with nonsense and crap.