1/2: A combination of relationship (of any kind) red flags that morph into a Giant Red Flag, Warning Signal Flares, and Flashing Neons Signs Saying Danger Ahead are someone saying to you or about anyone else:
"If you/they liked/loved/respected me, they would [stop doing whatever it is they don't like you/them doing]."
and
"This is just how I am, and you/they need to deal with it. If you/they liked/loved me, you/they would accept me as I am and not try to change me."
A #protip follows:
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@thedisasterautist But that thinking works both ways, if they lived you/them, they wouldn’t act that way/treat you/them that way.