So my defense mechanism kicked in and I slammed my phone down on his car console (1 yr old car) screaming to stop this now not I. Front of my nephew AND raised his hand like he was about to punch me in the face. Told me he hates me and had always hated me and threatened to drop me off 25 min away from my house. Mind you I had surgery on Thursday.

I’m beyond upset can’t stop crying and I can never forgive him for this. I knew he always hated me. We never got along when we were younger. And it came out. Then when he tried to hit me I saw a different side of him. He was driving erratic and I just wanted to get home and away from him.

I just lost a brother and I don’t know why it hurts so bad because I don’t really like him all that much either.

Sorry just need to vent so I can get the hurt out

I can’t even smoke because of surgery. I did earlier as I needed to calm down and almost passed out when I walked back into my house.

@Patti1120 that's awful. I hope you find a way to escort him out of your life. Politics aside, any man who threatens to hit any woman is not worthy. Be well

@Patti1120 also, get better friends.

@TrueBloodNet In her defense she didn’t know my brother was as nuts as he was but I didn’t understand why she thought it would be funny to entice the situation as she was in car with me Anyone who thinks it would be wise to do that I truly am looking at her differently.

I’m am selfish cause I really need the help from my surgery and I dont have anyone else but I dont know what to do I know im not 💯 yet to take care of myself just yet. I just don’t know what to do

@Patti1120 do you have to rely on your brother? Or just the "friend'?

@TrueBloodNet just the friend. I had to rely on him to take me to drs cause I can’t drive & my friend doesn’t. We had a lot of trauma in our childhood & this is his trauma that he needs to deal with. It’s such a long story but they (sis & bro) blame me for the past trauma cuz they never dealt with it, it’s easier to be angry with me than to deal with it head on. I know there is nothing more I can do on my end until they heal. I hope they heal cause I’m a great person to be around lol ❤️

@Patti1120 Awww I hope they do too but more I hope you don't have to deal with them much until they do.

@Patti1120 HUGS

@Patti1120 I’m sorry to hear that you had an awful day and a terrible argument with your brother. 😞 ❤️ Sending you BIG virtual hugs 🫂

@Patti1120 💛

@Patti1120 I only have two siblings left alive. I am estranged from both of them. In both cases they drank deeply from the MAGA koolaid. I get your pain but I remember something my niece said at a young age for such wisdom. "Family isn't blood its who has your back when you need it."
Now your free to find that real family.

@Patti1120 Sorry for your situation. Keep in mind that it is him that has lost a sister in many ways. We have free will to choose our friends but are born into a family. Is blood really thicker than water given such circumstances and relationships?

@Patti1120 i'm sorry for your loss. i don't understand it either. i lost my mom and brother to racism and bigotry in 2004 after we adopted from China a second time. lost most of the rest of the family during the 2008 election.

@Patti1120 Jesus, that's awful. I hope you're safe.

@Patti1120 I hope he's isn't your only help while you are recovering from surgery. He's treatment is abusive and I think you should believe him when he says he hates you. Do not put yourself in a position that he is in charge.

@JPSCHWEIZER63 oh I believe him that he hates me. He always did growing up. As stupid as it sounds it stems from me being a girl and not a brother. Cause he truly doesn’t treat my other sister like this at all I’m the youngest and he’s the middle child.