Nothing gives you clarity like seeing how people *don't* show up when something goes wrong.

The uncle who sends multiple 20-min VMs about his life? Radio silent after my last reply, in which I mentioned my job loss.

Ditto with a friend who expressly asked me to tell him how last week's meeting went. Silence since Thurs.

And a fellow who always sends me a long Sunday email couldn't be bothered to put in a word responding to my news.

Sometimes I just serve as a sounding board. 🙃 Call me ELIZA.

@MLClark it’s an eye-opener, for sure and it hurts. At my lowest, I found no one, but myself. Maybe that’s why they call it “at your lowest”….you search high, only to reach the lowest and find yourself.

I’m sorry that this happened to you. It must’ve made you feel unimportant and unloved. I can assure you that you ARE important and very much loved ❤️❤️❤️

@Valkyrie_D @MLClark It's wild when you're the one always helping others doing for them - even if it's small things - and then when you need a hand or a friend they are all too busy.

@MrGoat I hear ya. Makes you feel used and like you don’t matter. 💜 Sometimes people only come to you when they need something or have a problem, but when you need something (especially just someone to listen), no one’s around. It hurts. Often times, I mutter to myself, “I’m not a f*cking therapist”. 🤷‍♀️

@MLClark

@Valkyrie_D @MLClark @MrGoat I am the 3am friend. The one that gets out of bed if you need to talk over coffee at Dennys, sometimes just being there to listen when everyone else is sleeping and once even drove 3 hours one way at 11pm because a friend was stuck in a bad situation.

Yet I know too well what it feels like to be completely alone.