People get upset by my writing for a few different reasons, but I think my favourite is how some bristle at my use of "we" and "us", as in "some of us" and "we sometimes".

I use this language so as not to dehumanize anyone--*we* are human, even if some of us are extremely hateful.

But it really upsets some to be lumped together like that--and I understand why! However, the moment we deny that a hateful person is human, we make ourselves vulnerable to failing to see how hateful people *happen*.