(It"s a tough hustle for all my sibs right now - none of them are doing okay - but it's still kind of hilarious when my experience doesn't count for beans. Everyone needs to go through nonsense themself before they'll believe someone else's experience of similar, I guess!)
@MLClark Exactly right. I have some that have yet to figure it out -- and probably never will.
Some people don't want to figure it out. They like feeling miserable. It reinforces their self-view. And/or they use it to get attention.
I learned a long time ago to just take care of myself, and the positive people in my life. You can't heal those who don't want to be healed.