Oh, but here's a lovely, generous reflection from Beau of the Fifth Column on stereotypes and anxieties about gender roles, specifically addressed to the fellows whose sense of self relies on a strong delineation of activities by orientation.

I wish we lived in a world with fewer hangups. But folks like me, Beau, and probably tons of you cross paths with folks who carry such gender-role hangups every day.

What a world we might have, if not for all the hate and the fear.
https://youtu.be/FN8o-6bFfZg