I grew up a Value Village & Kmart kid, home bowl-based haircuts, Halloween costumes out of what was lying around, & *tons* of insistence that I didn't need things because my sibs didn't quite connect asking for things with my parents always fighting.
Years later, I still wonder if I'm playing out Pratchett's economic theory. Yesterday I found 2 pairs of shoes for 25CAD apiece & felt proud of myself. & that's fine (money's tight) but *could* I mentally invest more in better things if it weren't?
@MLClark My spouse and I both grew up in very financially constrained homes, and times were tough when my son was young. I'm glad we've been on the same page. But we all recognized it has affected our thinking.
You highlight a really important point: later in my life, I met others who'd experienced financial hardship, but *without* the vicious antagonism that consumed my parents. I've met people who grew up in poverty with a sense of solidarity rather than shame, & that can make all the difference.
So I don't doubt the hard years continue to shape your thinking--but I'm cherishing the gift you gave your son, in being united even in hard times with your spouse. Well done to you both.