I had an aunt pass away last week and I'm not going to the funeral which is upsetting another aunt and cousins. I can barely identify that branch of the family from a lineup because we so rarely saw them and when we did there was such an age difference that I barely interacted with them.
Sure, I'm mildly sad of losing another older relative, but like I said that branch is pretty much strangers, and of course they want something if I were going... pallbearers.
@elbutterfield
its my mom's sister, and my mom isn't even going. Not out of any spite or anger, she just doesn't want to travel to the other side of the state where this particular sister of her lived
@Beerdini Of course. I don't know the particulars, and it makes sense to take your position from your mom. I guess I am just thinking that there might be someone for whom you could make a difference.
I get it. My mom had 9 siblings. Dad had 4. The cousins are countless. I've met only a handful. I haven't even met all of mom's siblings.
@Beerdini You absolutely do not have to go. You can pay respects in your own way should you choose to do so. You donβt even have to do that much.
@Beerdini Is there someone on that side of the family that is dear to you and is feeling some grief? You could go for that person, and honor their loss. It doesn't have to be about your connection to the lost loved one. Just a thought...