Depending on the level of toxicity in a relationship, sometimes you have no choice but to go "no contact". You have to not only leave the space, but also make sure that you remove all access to yourself by those who contributed to the negativity that warped your mind, your soul, and altered your way of seeing the world. You can't take anything with you from that space if you want to create something healthy for yourself. You shouldn't bring darkness into your new light.
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Sometimes to HEAL and to EVOLVE you have to pack up and go, leaving the darkness behind, so you can breathe again and find your true voice without constant resistance, anger, and completely maladapted people running you into the ground until you inevitably become just as broken and warped as them.
To truly be "Free To Be" ... you need to give yourself the space to unlearn, relearn, and thrive where you have support and the freedom to be you; a garden where you have the chance to bloom.
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This applies to relationships, family, and social media.
When you leave a toxic space you have to unlearn what you learned there otherwise you bring the same energy, attitudes, and negative behaviors with you ... you spread the disease that you are trying to escape from, you infect other people with that hue of darkness, madness, and negativity because you carry it within you.
Your trauma - and it IS trauma - is something that needs to be healed so you don't unconsciously "do onto others".
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CoSo is home to a lot of refugees. Refugees of a toxic, negative, soul sucking, mind altering relationship that is literally DESIGNED to infect as many people as possible with traits, attitudes, and behaviors that are completely maladaptive to normal life.
The Hellmouth has created an entire generation of people who are trapped in permanent FIGHT mode. The stress, the reactivity, the lower order thinking, the triggers ... it is all from staying too long in a toxic relationship.
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Take us to church, E! 👾💜👾
@BosmangBeratna oh I'm working on it ❤️
@thewebrecluse I love your mind. Thanks for cracking it open for us as often as you do. 💜🤓
@BosmangBeratna you are incredibly kind to say that. ❤️ Thanks always for being so positive and receptive to my thoughts ❤️
@BosmangBeratna and that is why you are epic ❤️
@thewebrecluse aww 🤓 thank you
@thewebrecluse
> Thanks always for being so positive and receptive to my thoughts
It's a gift, when people share. The last few years have shown us exactly what keeping things close to our chest accomplishes. I am all for learning, and sharing together. It makes life worth living. 💜✨️