@CinnamonGirlE: Get you a friend who can do both.
That is me as a friend. While I "hold space" I also work out solutions and provide details such as temporal and material requirement, not to mention prerequisites (if applicable), avenues of approach, potentialities along the way, alternatives should insurmountable difficulties be run into, rough timetables, and limited but reliable support, seeing as how I'm also handling my own shit.
Yes, I am #neurallyatypical and a #residentalien.