Maybe I'm dumb but is it wrong to care about people even if they've hurt you in life? Like I've met some people over the years that have hurt me pretty badly - some on purpose, others not... but I still wish them a happy and fulfilling life. I still want what's best for them...
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@Brisse I say not dumb, not wrong. Caring about other human beings, maximizing good and love, is, I believe, universal.
Applying that situationally and and developing a calculus for who deserves that and who does not is learned behavior I think we are better off unlearning. The fewer brain cycles spent wishing harm to others, the better.
(I had a very violent childhood so didn't come by this view easily and it may be skewed.)