A lot of people have a core dream they've cherished for their whole life, but they don't take the minimal planning it would take to make their dream come true.
This is profoundly weird and vaguely sad to me.
I have to accept that people simply want to live in their dreams more than their their reality.
I've lost patience for that. You get one life. Live it!
@sumpnlikefaith My grandmother always wanted to visit Hawaii, but she declined to go even when my uncle and his wife planned a vacation there and offered to bring her along, all expenses paid. She died two years later.
I still feel sad about that, but at least it taught me to do the things I really want to do while I'm still alive.
@danialexis People close to me have experiences like this, too.
It does helps to clarify one's priorities.
Also? I want to give people permission: if something isn't actually a desire (any longer?), that's totally fine, but then please steward your imaginative energy.
There can't be anything much sadder than people pining over stuff they don't *actually* want.