I get resistance nearly every time I say this, but I'm convinced it's an important truth: feelings are facts.
By this I simply mean that how we're feeling is a fact. Emotions don't need to come with judgement, or self-recrimination, but they shouldn't be met with denial either.
Western (or Northern) civilisation has a very strange/strained relationship with emotions. They end up running the lives of people who don't believe they even have them.
It doesn't have to be this way.
@iamwill1w9 Yes, especially those of us who grew up in that kind of a bubble need to hear this. There is still a lot of unexamined suspicion of feelings running amok in those circles. (And unexamined leveraging of feelings to perpetuate the cult too, come to think of it!)
I'm comfortable with "truth" over "fact" if that feels better to you.
The point is to and honour human complexity -- we are more than mere (supposed) rationality.
@sumpnlikefaith Yes! 100%
@sumpnlikefaith I think you’re right. I would probably say feelings are truth, but that’s because in my mind I distinguish truth from fact. But definitely on the same page with what you’re saying.
Those of us that grew up in cult world were constantly told that our feelings don’t matter, can’t be trusted, etc.