Regarding the difficult but important conversations I have had in the past 36 (ish) hours.
I'm thinking about tactics.
Thoughts are still forming.
I'll circle back later.
There are some specific people I'd like to get involved in the conversation so I'll tag you all when I have something more coherent to say.
Laters! ❤️
I'm getting there.
I'm thinking about "friendship evangelism", a common idea in the church, and how we might apply the approach in other, non-religious contexts.
Put this picture in your mind:
A man stands on a street corner, Bible in hand, sincerely and loudly proclaiming the Gospel.
How are people reacting to him?
Are people stopping to listen?
Is anyone really taking in what he's saying?
Is his sincere and loving work changing any hearts and minds?
How do you think the people are feeling, being preached to by this method?
Are they encouraged? Are they uplifted?
Do they feel judged and condemned?
Does his method make people ask questions, or does it put people in a fight-or-flight frame of mind?
If the latter, what do they do?
Walk away and ignore the message?
Respond aggressively? Defensively?
The only way I have seen online discussion work around contentious topics is in heavily moderated forums specifically for those topics and they still get very heated. And I’ve been on the internet pre www. I’ve had to side step plenty to be respectful of others’ beliefs I don’t share and focus on the topics where our minds do meet.
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As for the street corner.. IRL most people don’t respond well to people shouting their beliefs on a street corner.
They respond better to action. Churches around here who are feeding people, being a living example of their faith .. those are the only people I’ll personally listen to because I respect what they’re doing. Even if I don’t share their personal belief.
Hope my two cents is helpful. 😀
@Museek Very. Thank you.
So if Coso is our street corner, yes it's fine to stand and shout our truth and nobody ought to try to prevent it or criticize them for it, but perhaps real change happens once the dust has cleared and we can have a quiet chat over coffee.
@stueytheround I like this..
for example, I’m pretty sure any Native American will tell you how difficult it is to live within a social or legal framework based upon beliefs that were never intended to include their way of life but they’ll also tell you that there are places where there can be mutual understanding and agreement. I use this example because it’s relevant and relevant to so many societal issues that affect us all and it’s a minority voice that isn’t heard enough.
@stueytheround I think @Museek makes some fantastic points. I don't respond well to a complete stranger lecturing me saying "This is your job". No it's not. But conversely, someone posting what they did that made a difference gets my respect and I think helps others make a difference
I still maintain though after watching the last day or two that the gif I posted last night stands. Something that was never an issue here is suddenly one, and I can't help think there are reasons behind that
@BillyBones @stueytheround @Museek beautiful discussion. I personally feel that while you can be passionate about a topic you also have to leave room for others to grow at their own pace without trying to force them to where you wish them to be. Many things and changes do not happen overnight like we wish.
@BillyBones @stueytheround @Museek You can not force others into conversations simply because you wish it to happen. that is why it is up to those who have the disposition to have the starting discussions even more so that others will start to feel more comfortable with stepping in. Also, people need to learn when to step away BEFORE a discussion gets heated.
@stueytheround thanks Stuey. I appreciate it. Only giving my perspective. I can’t speak for others. Saw the conversation though and decided to say something. Hope you have a good day. Thanks for the chat. ☕️